Two zero twelve (2012). You should have awake by now. Open up your eager eyes. You should realize by now, you’re already twenty one (21). Not a ‘teen’ anymore. Now, you have so many responsibilities to take care of. Many of hearts to be consider. Too many things to think before you say or done. You’re a woman. Not a girl anymore. Do act like a woman or maybe a lady at least.
It’s not a post to condemn, but to remind you all as now you’ve time to be chase. It is about your personal life. Love story that you should wrote for yourself. It might be some of you prefer your partner to be chosen by your parents. And for me, it is nice. For the rest, I certainly sure that you want to find your soul mate by your own. And it is okay too.
Part 1.
For the 89’, 90’ and 91’, realized that you only have a few years before you’ve your own family. Marriage is not a game that you can restart all over again whenever you want it or when things get hard or maybe when things didn’t work out as you want it to. It is a serious matter. By now, you should learn to love someone by right. Not into a puppy love anymore. You should control yourself, act like an adult, have a steady boyfriend because if you not doing it by now, one fine day, when your twenty four, and most of your friends are married, and you know you are in trouble. You can say ‘it’s okay’ now, but later on, trust me, you’ll be regret. You’ll be in a lot of stress from friends and family. How do I know that? I’ve seen a lot of those cases before. Think about it, you only have about three to four years max. Don’t ruin it and don’t waste your time on unnecessary things. Remember that, “kita ada agama, kita ada adat.”
Tell me, until when you can stay single, or maybe flirting around? If you’re a man. Then it will be fine. Because, man life always start at forty. But you, you are a woman. By the age of twenty seven you are consider as old, and thirty will be too old. Trust me, it not mature, it is called ‘old’. For sure, most of you want a stable job, want to achieve something before you get married, but it’s not impossible if you get married and achieve it. It great even. I’m not telling this because of there a lot of ‘sekawan murai’ out there. People may talk. No ones can shut their mouth, and it is true. But, do you strong enough to ignore it? Suck it! Surely you don’t. Because you’re a woman. ‘Itu hukum alam, jangan lawan.’ After 25’, you all will turn into more sensitive than you are now. Believe it, true story.
Part 2.
Love is like a plant. Even though you didn’t like it, but if you take a good care of it, it will grow pretty, it will grow nice and it worth it after all. ‘Cinta sebelum khawin dan cinta selepas khawin adalah berbeza. Cinta sebelum khawin kita cari, kita selami, kita fahami, tapi cinta selepas khawin kita pupuk, kita semai kita baja.’ I saw the quotes for a woman, and I agreed with it. “Love someone who loves you, not someone you love.” Because, even though you love him hard and you give him all of you but then, after marriage if you not seed it well, you end up alone ‘till the end of your life. You might not end up in divorce, but much more worst, when you’ve have to go through ‘till the end just because you got responsibilities since you have kids.
‘Cinta sebelum khawin dan cinta selepas khawin adalah berbeza. Cinta sebelum khawin kita cari, kita selami, kita fahami, tapi cinta selepas khawin kita pupuk, kita semai kita baja. Jika tidak dipupuk cinta itu selepas engku berkhawin, maka perkhawinan engkau hanya tergantung pada dahan-dahan tanggungjawap kerana anak-anak. Tidak kah engkau rasa itu lagi perit dan teruk dari bercerai? Bila cinta dihati mula pupus, terhakis dek masa yang pantas berlalu, sayangnya umur engkau baru memasuki alam 40an mungkin seawal lanjutnya usia pada 50 -60an, engkau tidak lagi tidur bersama. Bilik mula berasingan. Apa engaku tidak malu pada anak-anak engkau sendiri? Pada orang luar yang mungkin bakal tahu cerita dalam kelambu engkau?Mana pergi nya bunga-bunga cinta yang kau agungkan sejak umur kau belasan tahun? Sejak seawal umur belia engkau? ’
Part 3.
I know that all of it has been written. But, who else gonna fix it if not ourselves? Why do we have to repeat the same mistake twice? We should learn something from it although it’s not our mistake at the first place. ‘Percayalah, kadang-kadang pengalaman orang berguna juga buat kita. Tak perlu dicari pengalaman sendiri. Itu ertinya pengajaran bagi kita. Mungkin tidak seseronok jika dicari sendiri pengalam, kesalahan itu, namun ingatlah, lagi seronok nya hidup ini, ibarat lagi tinggi kita, bila jatuh lagi sakit. Itu pasti.’
As for me. I consider myself as a guy. Although I’m twenty one (21) now, but I’m not in rush moment of ‘chasing time’ since I have six to seven years to go or maybe more. I have to be stable, because my responsibilities later on are bigger. Likes Ibu said, “To have the key of heart for you to hold it in your arms ‘till the end of your live, you should have the three main key. The first one is your own house key, or maybe your rented house. Second, your car key, because it most needed when she's pregnant. And the third is your office key.” If you know what I mean? And I’m grateful that I didn’t own any of heart key for seriously as I’m realized that I’m not affordable enough. But who cares? I’m a guy.
Do realized, you are a woman, or maybe a lady by right now at least. Think wisely before you do something.
A little moment.
“Jangan jadikan alasan yang kita perlukan masa untuk mengenal hati budi masing-masing, sedang kan setelah kita berkhawin, kamu ada seumur hidup untuk mengenali antara satu sama lain. Pucuk pangkalnya, cinta sebelum mahu pun selepas berkhawin, jalan cerita nya sama. Kamu perlu, wajib bermula dari petak pertama dengan memupuk perasaan cinta hingga ke akhirnya. Tiada jalan pintas dalam hidup untuk bahagia, lalui segalanya, susah senang bersama kamu pasti bahagia. Pada aku, tidak aku mampu menjanjikan kau tidak lagi mengugurkan air mata, namun aku janjikan kau akan bahagia, kerana aku hanya manusia biasa, bukannya dewa.”
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